I had a really good friend of mine say these exact words to me last night. "You know, for a guy, you are high maintenance." My jaw dropped and I just looked at her in disgust. She proceeded to build her case and explain it to me. I thoroughly argued against her position. I have a very calm personality most of the time, how could I possibly be high maintenance? When I think of the phrase 'high maintenance' I instantly think of someone who demands a lot from people. I am usually too concerned about the other person to demand anything of them. We then began taking a poll of people who walked by and none of them really had a clear answer.
Again I asked her what made me high maintenance and she said it was the weird things I had about me. Examples she gave were: I eat in a particular way that I cannot have my food touching, I really like to have a plan of what is going on just so that I am comfortable with what will happen, and I won't act on something unless I'm sure it will work out. Those were her arguments. I knew all of those things about me but did not think of them in that way. Yes, I'm detail-oriented and love to plan things out but I think that is fine because most of my friends are not that way and I think we then balance each other out. I bring the structure, they bring the spontaneity.
After arguing back and forth we decided that I was not high maintenance, but also not low maintenance because of some of my "life styles" as she called them. Neat.
I've come back and decided that I'm not high maintenance, I'm OCD. These "life styles" that she speaks of are really things I'm just OCD about...not high maintenance!
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Yes, I definitely agree that you are more OCD than high maintenance, but i also do not think that you are incredibly OCD.
I must be OCD too. I'm with you on a lot of that stuff. I'm a germ freak too and people look at me like I'm crazy sometimes out in public.
I never knew that I was OCD until I came to college. The things that I thought were normal were "weird" to my roommate. I've never got the idea that u were OCD though and for sure not high maintenance. Just "particular"..
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